Experiences are very personal things, two or more people can go through the same thing and come out with relatively different experiences of the very same thing!
And depending on what sort of experience one goes through, life's future circumstances and situations tend to be viewed under the lens of the last experience one had and in most cases that last experience used as a lens is the unforgettable experience.
ladies and gentle men, thank you for joining me yet again today, I am sure you and I have experiences we have gone through in our lives that have shaped or are still shaping our lives and our perspectives of life even as your eyes pierce through this lines that you are reading.
For many people their unforgettable experiences have been bad ones and so they dread anything, yes, almost anything even remotely associated with their bad experience in anyway. Yet for others, theirs have been good, really good ones and they can't wait to experience the next one.
If we are really to be honest with ourselves, I can safely say that we have all been there, right?
Now, whether your experience has been good or bad, it is an experience nonetheless and what I intend to do in this post is to look at the four dimensions of our experiences and how we can take any experience that we have or will have and make it work for us rather than against us.
I hope at the end of this article, you will be able to comprehend with me, what the the dimensions -i.e. the breadth, the length, the depth and the height of an experience is, and with it, be able to know how to get your self in or get your self out of any experience at your own will and still have a sound mind.
Dimension 1 - The Breadth.
The breadth of any experience depends on how open minded or closed minded the person going through it is and your environment has a lot to play in determining how you comprehend the breadth of your experience(s)
It takes time to know your environment. But it’s time you must invest if you’re serious about having good unforgettable experiences.
The first step is quite simply to open your eyes and look at what’s going on around you. You need to keep your finger on the pulse of your environment to know what’s “hot.” But that’s only half the equation. The second step is to do your best to understand WHY it’s hot.
Until you understand your environment at a deeper level, you’ll keep scratching your head and wondering why you may be feeling defeated and frustrated most of the time.
The good news is that once you get it — once you fully understand the psychology of your environment — your results will improve immediately and you will often be able to create the experiences you desire and for most of the time they will truly be an unforgettable ones.
So there you have it.
If you’ve ever wondered why things are the way they are with you, though you are faithfully doing your best to serve your God, now you know. And it’s up to you to change that. Are you going to keep plodding along in frustration? Or are you going to embrace your environment with an open mind and decide that, once and for all, you are going to do what it takes to make your experience(s) broad, 'sweet' and truly unforgettable?
Only time will tell …
Dimension 2 - The Length
For how long have you gone through the experience that you are going through right now, pleasant or unpleasant? or how long would you like to go through your next experience? One hour, two, a day, a month, year? how long?
You will agree with that the length of your experience(s) will depend on your attitude to what's going on around you. Suffice it to say that you can really make any experience to be long or short depending on your attitude and your motivation.
Some folks are so predisposed to live by the rear view mirror of their lives - that is, they have for long allowed the not so good experiences of their past to dictate what direction they drive their lives. Those long past experiences have given them an attitude to live by and their motivation is always to run away from such experiences and in so doing, they are taking a longer time looking at their past unpleasant experience(s) and instead of the experience(s) vanishing, it even becomes bigger and more prominent with each passing day.
Now, that is not bad as for long as this experiences help you foster and chisel out the kind of life you want, otherwise it will only make perfect sense for you to cut yourself loose from that experience, shorten its lifespan and get on the way to making long, nice unforgettable experiences for yourself, get the right motivation to live by, and live your life the way you want it and not be locked up in your past mistakes which could be hindering your progress. Get the right attitude - I did talk extensively about winning attitudes in my article - Over the Sahara, might be a good idea to read it.
If you have had a bad experience in the past, you can get out of it, free yourself and move on with your life. But then you need to have the right attitude and motivation to do that.
You basically have to motivate yourself daily to strive for the ideal things you cherish to have in your life, it won't be easy but will be worth all your time and effort.
By so doing, you will shorten the lifespan and impact of your bad experiences and be on your way to making long, beautiful unforgettable experiences!"People say that motivation does not last. Well, neither does bathing - that is why we recommend it daily" (Zig Ziglar)
Give yourself permission to be happy, rise above petty annoyances, fear and anxiety and take charge, making your own unforgettable experiences. It is possible - just enter the theater of your mind.
Dimension 3 - The Depth
99.99% of all unforgettable experiences are emotional, be it good or bad experiences. This should not come as a surprise at all. Why,..
Because we're born with the capacity to feel deeply, so it's as natural as breathing to experience a range of emotions. Fear and joy and sadness, anger and shame and disgust lie somewhere within each of us. Ah, but to what extent do we control these emotions, and to what extent do they control us? How you answer this question of how your emotions play out in your life has a great deal to do with your levels of personal satisfaction and with the character of your relationships with others and more so your experiences in life. Do you manage your emotions well, keeping them in check with your thinking and your willpower, or are you someone who lets emotions have their way, giving in to the wild dance of feelings?
Each one of us encounters some hard times; we get caught off guard, or feel a sudden swell of emotion, whether from fear, joy, anger or sadness.
Life is just like this sometimes.
You know that because you are an emotional person. Some people go to great lengths to keep their emotions under wraps, to keep a stiff upper lip, to not let others know what emotions they are feeling. Yet for others, that is not the case. They embrace all of life's emotions, both the joys and the turmoil that life brings their way.
The depth of your experience brought about by the emotional intensity is really the big marker of how unforgettable that experience will be and this has to do with the passion, the zeal and the determination with which you pursue(d) something and enjoy(ed) it and the longer your stay was at it, the deeper your emotional attachment would have been or will be. There is also a spiritual element to the way your emotions operate and that serves to even further deepen and solidify your experiences.
It would ideally be great to be emotionally composed, and take it easy with life.
Nonetheless, go ahead and experience your emotions. You may or may not express them and that is dependent on your approach to your emotions, however, learn to engage your emotions with positive feeling and enjoy the wonderful intensity that life brings!
Dimension 4 - The Height
This dimension of your experience bespeaks more of of the quality of your experience and its something that comes by design rather than by happenstance.
Have you ever attended a really nice wedding, party, concert or gone on a cruise or a very lavish vacation? what was your experience like? Great! wasn't it?
That is what I mean when I talk about the height of an experience.
The organisers of such occasions and events do so with such an experience in mind for the concerned persons who will be attending, just like the air hostesses are trained to give you a wonderful experience during your flight.
The thing about this dimension is that it is both futuristic and at the same time current. you are bound to experience it twice as the designer.
First, as you plan it, through your mind you will have the benefit of experiencing it in your imagery and then experience it yet again when you are living it out, what a bonus! and you can do this with almost anything you do if you really desire to enjoy it.
Your faith plays a big role where the height of your experience is concerned, the writer of the book of Hebrews had this to say about faith: "Faith is the substance of things hopped for the evidence of things not yet seen" Hebrews 11:1
Many of your future aspirations and dreams that will eventually give you wonderful experiences simply have to be based on faith, otherwise you will not even try to take a step to plan for them.
So,
live by faith: "For the just shall live by faith" and you will be assured of wonderful experiences in the future.
Okay, there we have it; the breadth, the length, the depth and the height of experiences. If you are going through an experience right now that you don't like, you can get out of it and get into the one you want, that is the way it should be.
That is now all up to you.
What remains for me to do is to say, Have an unforgettable experience and make it a pleasant one. Let's catch up later, right here.
Shalom.
Peace & Love
Libs
