Define the Relationship(s)

We are relational beings. Relationships matter a lot to us, in fact it was once said; "Relationships are everything" Very true, I agree. 100%

Your great moments in life and indeed even your worst moments will be directly related to the relationships you are involved in, one way or the other.

Ladies and gentlemen, relationships do offer solace, nurturing, support and happiness and fun, however they are also sometimes the origin of distress, frustration and deep despair. At the core of unrest and troubles in many relationships is lack of understanding of the defining relational principles both in personal and corporate lives.

The burden of this article is to try to shed light on this subject and by the time you read the last sentence in this article, I am confident that you would have safely travelled with me to a safe landing and would be uplifted in your soul and spirit to take your relationships to the next level, and this I will do, God being my helper!

Right then, what could it possibly mean to define a relationship? after all aren't all relationships defined?

Well....., Yes & No. On the surface many appear to be defined, however, principally, few are, they are lacking in substance.
Question - Why are you in the relationship(s) you are in right now? Why did you get into it in the first place? Are your intentions genuine or are they selfish?

This is what I've found out, many people get into relationships for all sorts of reasons. Some basically do so to overcome things or issues like loneliness, the pain of rejection, the need for sex, the need for companionship, the need to feel wanted, the need for financial security, yet others do it for EGO reasons - want to be connected to the 'top' people in society(they like to flaunt around about knowing so and so, the 'big shots' blah, blah, blah, name it)

Look, there is something called "love" and "need". One is "giving" and the other is "taking". When you "need" something from the relationship, you become a "taker" - and this can work well so long as your partner is prepared to "give" indefinitely and you know that, this is not always the case, very soon the giving party becomes tired and both parties become frustrated leading to even more serious issues.

The solution, - Define the Relationship.
Defining the relationship is about knowing the clear purpose of that relationship (where it is not known, establishing it) without ambiguity or deception. You simply are Crystal clear and honest about your intentions and they should be known to all parties involved in the relationship and being willing to do your part to make the relationship a success(pledging your commitment).

When you do not understand the purpose of anything, abuse is inevitable and relationships are no exception to this statement and sadly, that is what has happened or is happening to many folks, they have abused or are abusing their relationships and thus betraying the trust of those who gave them the benefit of the doubt in the first place and you find that they hip and hop from one relationship to the other, all for the wrong reasons. That is simply wrong.

I am pretty sure that we all want fulfilled and lasting relationships, don't we? Of course!

Well, below are some guiding principles to help us define our relationships and make the most of them, ready? Here we go:

1. Honesty

When it comes to relationships, the sooner you set things straight, the better. When meeting people and seeking to establish relationships with them, be honest about your intentions. Do the right thing and do not leave room for deception. HONESTY is the best policy.

By being honest, you set a strong foundation for the relationship you intend to pursue and at the same time you would have avoided entering into fake relationship - one based on deception. Always deal with honesty and demand honesty in all your a relationships, avoid leaving it till later because it might become too late.

Lying and deception are a terrible combination to be entertained in any relationship be it in an intimate relationship between two people, family relationship, business, team, etc, never ever entertain lies or deception, they will destroy your relationships.

2. Know Thyself

Who are You?

This is a question that is very critical and is at the center of identity crisis world over. If you can answer these question unequivocally and without qualifying it; then you are doing well with yourself, absolutely.

And it all starts with you having a relationship with yourself.

Here is where I am going with this; If you can't have a relationship with yourself, how can you possibly be successful in having a relationship with somebody else? think about it, seriously, is it possible? Nay, I do not think so.

You basically have to sort yourself out first - know thyself then you will be in position to appreciate others and relate to them successfully. And by the way, take your time knowing yourself, do not be in a hurry.

"The saying 'Know thyself ' may refer by extension to the ideal of understanding human behavior, morals, and thought, because ultimately to understand oneself is to understand other humans as well. However, the ancient Greek philosophers thought that no man can ever comprehend the human spirit and thought thoroughly, so it would have been almost inconceivable to know oneself fully. Therefore, the saying may refer to a less ambitious ideal, such as knowing one's own habits, morals, temperament, ability to control anger, and other aspects of human behavior that we struggle with on a daily basis".(Wikipedia)

Isn't it interesting that some people once they get into relationships, tend to want to change everyone else but themselves in those relationships to conform to their likes. It is not difficult to understand why this happens; If one fails to take time to know themselves, almost invariably they will fail to recognise and appreciate others for who they are, no wonder they will be inclined to want to change others.

News flash - You can not change anybody, forget it. Change always starts and begins with YOU!

I am obviously under no illusion to suggest that you will be able to know yourself fully, no, not even in your lifetime here on earth. There is just too much about you that you will not be able to fully comprehend it wholly as a human.

"In the true theological sense, 'Know Thyself ' is a fundamental tenet of the question of life's meaning. To truly 'know oneself' in this sense involves a deeply personal, spiritual transformation whereby a person would seek to orient themselves towards understanding their own phenomenological perceptions of reality, so as to gain earnest insight into aspects of one's own existence". (Wikipedia)

That is quite deep, however, you can at least know your core attributes and general human virtues like Truth, prudence, patience, love, justice, forgiveness, but more than that, practice them! walk the talk and that should never stop even when you get into relationships with others.

3. Let your YES be YES, and your NO be NO

This talks of clarity as opposed to ambiguity. Avoid at all costs being ambiguous in your relationships, there should not be room for second guessing your words and actions. Do not 'dilly dally' there is no point for that, in fact dilly dallying will only serve to amplify the anxiety and stress levels in your relationships and that is never good news for any relationship.

Poor communication almost invariably creates problems in relationships. The way people talk (or don't talk) to one another sometimes causes lots of distress and tensions, for example; domineering, demanding, intrusive communication which will only serve to cause one party to pull away or not communicate in return or on the other hand parties not showing any concern or empathic understanding by not physically or emotionally responding to their partner can also cause a break in communication with very unpleasant consequences. Sometimes these could be a consequence of ego.

Ego is terrible in relationships.

If you are not sure of anything, say; ' I can't comment on that right now, can I get back to you on that?' then go and do some research. Even the scriptures say: "Prove all things; hold fast that which is good" 1Thessalonians 4:21.

I have a sneaky little feeling that the Accountants and Lawyers, base their term of DUE DILIGENCE on the principles of the above scripture i.e PROVE ALL THINGS, then hold fast on that which is good. Lovely.
Well, what does that tell you about your personal life and relationships given the fact that Accounting and Law are very thorough and prudent professions.

It can only mean that, whenever somebody wants to pursue a relationship(of whatever nature- personal, business or otherwise) with you, make it your responsibility to perform your due diligence - prove all things before committing yourself. Avoid just falling into relationships, it is worth taking time to have a healthy scepticism, oh, yes.
Remember, the onus is on you to be responsible for your life.

You do your due diligence, not so much as to find fault with the other party, no, but to establish CREDENCE & CHARACTER; how credible is the person in question and what is their propensity to stay so in the mid to long term? Very important.
Doubtless, you will find some unpleasant things/issues about people's past, it would however be a terrible indictment to your sense of fairness if you were to rule out somebody purely based on their past mistakes. This is because mistakes don't & should not define anybody, we all have made and will make mistakes. People change, and at least that is one of the things mistakes tend to accomplish - change.

You should rather base your due diligence and judgement on things like; the persons values, beliefs, flexibility, their understanding of the purpose of the relationship they seek to establish, their plans for the future and perhaps also their disposition to embrace reality when it dawns, things ain't always gonna be the same, be open minded.

You will be amazed at what this process(due diligence) can help you accomplish in terms of making decisions. I dare say that, there are people currently in relationships, who said YES when they should have said NO & they are regretting their decision and there are those who said NO when they should have said YES and as such have missed out on a very, very great relationship. Very true, no doubt.

Anyway, do your due diligence and do it properly, keep emotions out of the way and when you finally come to say YES or NO, it will be an emphatic one without ambiguity and a well informed YES or NO.
The only exception is when you are establishing a relationship with God, that one you don't ask questions, salvation is free and its the best gift, for God knows you infinitely better than anybody and He makes the best companion on all aspects of life - more about that later.

Endeavour to be informed, that way, you will be confident and sure of your words and actions and you will be able to build meaningful and lasting relationships.

4. Review your relationships from time to time

The truth is, we all tend to deviate from our best intentions from time to time and that is quite normal and okay. What is not acceptable is failure to realise when you have drifted and make the necessary adjustments or amends for that matter.

That is why reviewing your relationships from time to time will help you keep focus and perhaps redefine them so that they continue serving your collective purposes in changing times.

5. Operate under love and Forgiveness

These two factors are very essential in any relationship, both at its inception and in its life time.

None of us is perfect and we are bound to annoy or piss off others in relationships, it happens, believe me, we get it wrong often times, and that is why there should be scope for forgiveness in your relationships and it should be motivated by love for Love covereth all things - say Amen!

I don't see any other way you can be able to sustain any relationship without Love and Forgiveness being the bedrocks and foundation on which it is built.

6. Keep the big picture always in mind

I would like to believe that any relationship you get into should serve a purpose bigger than you and that benefits all concerned.

Realise that 'no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice' Therefore, engage in no transaction that does not benefit all whom it affects. It would be even further beneficial to eliminate hatred, jealousy, selfishness, cynicism and embrace love for all humanity.

When your relationships start being about you, at that point, you have lost the plot and that is when it starts getting toxic. Review it and redefine it immediately. Your relationships should never ever be only about you but should be about all concerned.

Don't take the above statement lightly.

Here is why....

Because, naturally humans are selfish, you have to exercise your will power correctly and always be motivated by love, otherwise, you will struggle in your relationship(s).

Having said all of the above, the ultimate and most important relationship you ought to have defined is your relationship with GOD and in case you did not know, the first step to take in defining that relationship is to accept the LORD Jesus as your saviour and receive the gift of salvation. More can be found here: Romans 10:9

Then there after, you make the commitment to walk in that new relationship so passionately and an unapologetically.

Your relationship with God in terms of your commitment and passion should be sacrosanct, nothing should take its place and make that a statement in your life one that is non negotiable. By FAITH, you can do it, and as you do it, the beauty of God in your spirit will burst forth on the outside in an undeniable fashion. Excellence, glory, virtue and success will become hallmarks of your life! Praise the LORD!

Many thanks for your kind attention, I have endeavoured in this article to get you thinking about your relationships, I hope you found it helpful and till next time, take good care of yourselves and speak to you soon.

Make the most of your relationships - Define them.

Peace & Love
Libs

Can you against Hope, believe in Hope?

In the recent past during the course of my Bible study, I came across this scripture, and it totally got me riveted;
It says: "Who against hope believed in hope, that he might become the father of many nations, according to that which was spoken so shall thy seed be" Romans 4:18

A literal exegesis of the above scripture gave me some very fascinating insights and moreover it's something that we see on a day-to-day basis and possibly even feel and operate in albeit with little conscious thought.

The Scripture talks about father Abraham and the experience of his encounter with God concerning the child of promise. You can read details of this encounter in Genesis 15:1-21.

The line that caught my attention in the scripture of Romans above was: "who against hope, believed in hope!"

How can someone possibly do that? against hope, believe in hope? The line looks like an oxymoron, doesn't it? But not quite, as I later found out.

For a couple of days, I couldn't help ruminating over that statement - ....against hope, believed in hope, not because there is something special that I'm hoping for, rather its just a case of my spirit being stirred up and that makes me believe somebody out there needs to hear this and be strengthened in their inner man.
I am very optimistic that in the few lines that follow, we shall be able to learn from Abraham's experience and thus at a point in time in our lives be able to say - Against hope, I(your name) believed in Hope! praise the LORD.

You see, all of us without exception do hope for one thing or the other, don't we? and these often times gives us reason to live, right? We hope to have a vibrant, fulfilled and a happy life, Isn't it so? True.
But how easy is it to have and sustain that Hope? you may ask.

That's a very good question and I believe father Abraham's life can teach us just that. Moreover, this is not just a hope per say, it is in all accounts, a reality just awaiting your ACTION to bring it to manifestation.

The hope that Abraham had to believe in was one of becoming the father of many nations and that was clearly against his state of Childlessness and his wife Sarah who was barren. But thank God that Abraham's hope was not based on some wishful thinking, delusion or fantasy. It was based on what was spoken by God as recorded; "......, that he might become the father of many nations according to that which was spoken" Romans 4:18. If you read Genesis 15:1-21, you will find details of that which was spoken.

Now, how was it possible that Abraham believed in this hope; just beside even God speaking to him(some people have been spoken to by God, but still have no hope, they've basically lost hope), what made Abraham a winner?

Aaaah, glad we came to this point.

Abraham's earlier encounter with God is recorded in Genesis 12, where upon the LORD told Abram to get out of his country and from his kindred and from his father's house and go unto the land that God would show him.

The scriptures tell us that by FAITH, Abram Obeyed. He took RESPONSIBILITY. he released his faith.

So there you have it, Abraham was later able, against hope, to believe in Hope, because he was a man of Faith and one who took responsibility and we can clearly see why God was pleased with him as we later learn according to the writer of Hebrews in Hebrews 11:6 "But without faith it is impossible to please Him(God)"

(Just like the Pound Sterling is the currency of Great Britain, Faith is the Currency of the Kingdom of God. Everything you will ever want in the Kingdom of God, you will get it by FAITH, no two ways about that).

The other thing Abraham did was that, He acted on the word of God, he did as God told him -in other words, he took the word that was spoken and made it his responsibility to perform it.

2Timothy 3:16 tells us that "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness"

Well, we can learn from the scripture about father Abraham's experience that FAITH and RESPONSIBILITY are very critical/essential to our christian walk and victory thereof.
Faith doesn't require you to have proof to act or receive and responsibility calls for you to find a way to do the right thing regardless of how tough things may be around you. And that right thing to do at anytime is to release your faith, in fact, unleash it. "God's favour surrounds us - Our Faith releases it!" Act in Faith.

Right now, just as you are reading this article, there is perhaps something or some word(s) that the Almighty God has spoken to you, it may well be that you are believing God for something He's promised you ages ago, true?.
Now unto you, hear what the LORD has to say to you this day;
Stand firm! and thus saith the Spirit of God: "Fear not, ( your name here): I am thy shield and thy exceeding great reward" Genesis 15:1. Do not despair.

As earlier on intimated, all of us have hopes and the reality is that, often times, there are 'giants' and 'mountains' in the way of our hopes and dreams, however, God says: Fear Not! yes, Fear not. Oh, how reassuring.
We serve a mighty & Sovereign God!

And like Abraham did, you also ought to take the Word(s) that Papa God has spoken to you and make it your responsibility to perform it - ACT on the word. Stand on the word of God & refuse to back down. Do not be shaken, not now, not ever. Unleash you faith.
God will surely supply you with the grace to perform it, just ACT in Faith, and "Faith commeth by hearing and hearing by the word of God" Romans 10:17

There and only then will you be able to say - Against hope, I believed in hope!

God bless you. Shalom.

Peace & Love
Sterling.

Talk it over

I wonder how much we humans would have been able to accomplish if communication was not part of our wonderful make up!

Through communication, we express our need to be understood, to be appreciated, to be loved.

Economically, some companies like Vodafone, T.mobile, Orange, 3, are thriving because of our need to communicate and now with the advance of technology - Internet, satellite, the world has truly 'become' small. Messages Kris cross the ether with record breaking speeds and volume and the pace of living really seems fast.

On many occasions when we refer to communication, talking is invariably involved.
We talk to: God, our relatives, our friends, our enemies. We talk, talk and talk, don't we?

Failure to talk at the right time, in many instances causes a communication break and that is like stopping the heart beat - 'blood will cease to flow in the body'. Communication is the life blood of families, communities and nations.

It wasn't so long ago when I was reminded of this need for us to talk to/with each other. It happened when a young man who felt betrayed and lied to by his dear friend, poured out his heart and openly talked about his frustration, his bitterness, you could feel his pain, you could hear his cry, tears rolling down his cheeks, sobbing quite heavily and heartily - who says men don't cry?

Anyway....

He was uploading all his bottled up emotions, talking it out in the presence of a caring, and listening ear.
At the end of it, he breathed a deep, big sigh of relief, visibly looked refreshed, burden lifted off and you could see a smile in the handsome face that he had. What a dramatic shift!

Well, like that young man, many of us are carrying burdens, disappointments, betrayals, rejections and all manner of things that are really and truly chocking the life out of you.

It, shouldn't be, you can not afford to continue like that any longer my dear. The life that we live on this earth is just, but for a moment and you need to live it to the full. But then, how can you live it to the full with all those bottled up emotions inside of you?
You ought to release them and make space/room for God & His army of angels to inhabit you. You won't truly experience the awesome power & effect of God in your life if you do not let go of the bottled up emotions.

Understandably, it might be hard, but you have to gather the courage to talk to somebody, pour out your heart and get your healing.

Now, talking to somebody, does not mean just anybody. there are two categories of people you can talk to in this instance:
They should either be; part of the problem or they should be part of the solution.

Let me explain;

Say for example, you feel betrayed by a colleague & you are obviously hurt, your first point of call would be to talk it over with your friend and communicate your concerns in a one on one heart to heart talk. If it is hard for both of you to do that, then consider talking to somebody who you know can listen to you without prejudice (your pastor or mentor perhaps). Do not just go and yip yap your heart to any ear, it might be counter productive and even cause you more emotional turmoil.

Sometimes, in fact often times, many of this emotional build-ups are caused by genuine, legitimate concerns; things like frustration for luck of employment, frustration for taking long to get the right partner for marriage, frustration for loss of a loved one, for mistakes we have made in the past that are now costing us. All of this things are legitimate and any normal person would feel it.

However, we ought to be proactive and not allow this legitimate concerns to build up emotional banks that will reach lethal levels. Do not allow those emotions to build up, because if you do, before long you will be like a walking time bomb (excuse my military language) waiting to explode. You need to occasionally detonate it (empty yourself of those frustrations) and be filled instead with the power, Mercy and Love of the unchanging, most gracious God. It is possible and you can do it.

Just remember that no one does not face challenges, we all do. From time to time, we will need a shoulder to lean on. "No man is an Island" We need each other and we should be there for each other, in good times as well as in challenging ones.

As I conclude this post, if you feel overwhelmed with life's challenges, I urge you to take action; talk it over, By talking it over, you will feel relieved, find insight and inspiration, the lights will be turned on and darkness dispelled, go on - give it a try.
Even our God invites us to talk it over with him "Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool" Isaiah 1:18.

Peace be with you and grace to you.

Peace & Love
Libs.

The Unforgettable experience

Experiences are very personal things, two or more people can go through the same thing and come out with relatively different experiences of the very same thing!

And depending on what sort of experience one goes through, life's future circumstances and situations tend to be viewed under the lens of the last experience one had and in most cases that last experience used as a lens is the unforgettable experience.

ladies and gentle men, thank you for joining me yet again today, I am sure you and I have experiences we have gone through in our lives that have shaped or are still shaping our lives and our perspectives of life even as your eyes pierce through this lines that you are reading.

For many people their unforgettable experiences have been bad ones and so they dread anything, yes, almost anything even remotely associated with their bad experience in anyway. Yet for others, theirs have been good, really good ones and they can't wait to experience the next one.

If we are really to be honest with ourselves, I can safely say that we have all been there, right?

Now, whether your experience has been good or bad, it is an experience nonetheless and what I intend to do in this post is to look at the four dimensions of our experiences and how we can take any experience that we have or will have and make it work for us rather than against us.


I hope at the end of this article, you will be able to comprehend with me, what the the dimensions -i.e. the breadth, the length, the depth and the height of an experience is, and with it, be able to know how to get your self in or get your self out of any experience at your own will and still have a sound mind.

Dimension 1 - The Breadth.

The breadth of any experience depends on how open minded or closed minded the person going through it is and your environment has a lot to play in determining how you comprehend the breadth of your experience(s)

It takes time to know your environment. But it’s time you must invest if you’re serious about having good unforgettable experiences.

The first step is quite simply to open your eyes and look at what’s going on around you. You need to keep your finger on the pulse of your environment to know what’s “hot.” But that’s only half the equation. The second step is to do your best to understand WHY it’s hot.

Until you understand your environment at a deeper level, you’ll keep scratching your head and wondering why you may be feeling defeated and frustrated most of the time.

The good news is that once you get it — once you fully understand the psychology of your environment — your results will improve immediately and you will often be able to create the experiences you desire and for most of the time they will truly be an unforgettable ones.

So there you have it.

If you’ve ever wondered why things are the way they are with you, though you are faithfully doing your best to serve your God, now you know. And it’s up to you to change that. Are you going to keep plodding along in frustration? Or are you going to embrace your environment with an open mind and decide that, once and for all, you are going to do what it takes to make your experience(s) broad, 'sweet' and truly unforgettable?

Only time will tell …

Dimension 2 - The Length

For how long have you gone through the experience that you are going through right now, pleasant or unpleasant? or how long would you like to go through your next experience? One hour, two, a day, a month, year? how long?

You will agree with that the length of your experience(s) will depend on your attitude to what's going on around you. Suffice it to say that you can really make any experience to be long or short depending on your attitude and your motivation.

Some folks are so predisposed to live by the rear view mirror of their lives - that is, they have for long allowed the not so good experiences of their past to dictate what direction they drive their lives. Those long past experiences have given them an attitude to live by and their motivation is always to run away from such experiences and in so doing, they are taking a longer time looking at their past unpleasant experience(s) and instead of the experience(s) vanishing, it even becomes bigger and more prominent with each passing day.

Now, that is not bad as for long as this experiences help you foster and chisel out the kind of life you want, otherwise it will only make perfect sense for you to cut yourself loose from that experience, shorten its lifespan and get on the way to making long, nice unforgettable experiences for yourself, get the right motivation to live by, and live your life the way you want it and not be locked up in your past mistakes which could be hindering your progress. Get the right attitude - I did talk extensively about winning attitudes in my article - Over the Sahara, might be a good idea to read it.

If you have had a bad experience in the past, you can get out of it, free yourself and move on with your life. But then you need to have the right attitude and motivation to do that.

You basically have to motivate yourself daily to strive for the ideal things you cherish to have in your life, it won't be easy but will be worth all your time and effort.
By so doing, you will shorten the lifespan and impact of your bad experiences and be on your way to making long, beautiful unforgettable experiences!"People say that motivation does not last. Well, neither does bathing - that is why we recommend it daily" (Zig Ziglar)

Give yourself permission to be happy, rise above petty annoyances, fear and anxiety and take charge, making your own unforgettable experiences. It is possible - just enter the theater of your mind.

Dimension 3 - The Depth

99.99% of all unforgettable experiences are emotional, be it good or bad experiences. This should not come as a surprise at all. Why,..

Because we're born with the capacity to feel deeply, so it's as natural as breathing to experience a range of emotions. Fear and joy and sadness, anger and shame and disgust lie somewhere within each of us. Ah, but to what extent do we control these emotions, and to what extent do they control us? How you answer this question of how your emotions play out in your life has a great deal to do with your levels of personal satisfaction and with the character of your relationships with others and more so your experiences in life. Do you manage your emotions well, keeping them in check with your thinking and your willpower, or are you someone who lets emotions have their way, giving in to the wild dance of feelings?

Each one of us encounters some hard times; we get caught off guard, or feel a sudden swell of emotion, whether from fear, joy, anger or sadness.

Life is just like this sometimes.

You know that because you are an emotional person. Some people go to great lengths to keep their emotions under wraps, to keep a stiff upper lip, to not let others know what emotions they are feeling. Yet for others, that is not the case. They embrace all of life's emotions, both the joys and the turmoil that life brings their way.

The depth of your experience brought about by the emotional intensity is really the big marker of how unforgettable that experience will be and this has to do with the passion, the zeal and the determination with which you pursue(d) something and enjoy(ed) it and the longer your stay was at it, the deeper your emotional attachment would have been or will be. There is also a spiritual element to the way your emotions operate and that serves to even further deepen and solidify your experiences.

It would ideally be great to be emotionally composed, and take it easy with life.

Nonetheless, go ahead and experience your emotions. You may or may not express them and that is dependent on your approach to your emotions, however, learn to engage your emotions with positive feeling and enjoy the wonderful intensity that life brings!

Dimension 4 - The Height

This dimension of your experience bespeaks more of of the quality of your experience and its something that comes by design rather than by happenstance.

Have you ever attended a really nice wedding, party, concert or gone on a cruise or a very lavish vacation? what was your experience like? Great! wasn't it?

That is what I mean when I talk about the height of an experience.

The organisers of such occasions and events do so with such an experience in mind for the concerned persons who will be attending, just like the air hostesses are trained to give you a wonderful experience during your flight.

The thing about this dimension is that it is both futuristic and at the same time current. you are bound to experience it twice as the designer.

First, as you plan it, through your mind you will have the benefit of experiencing it in your imagery and then experience it yet again when you are living it out, what a bonus! and you can do this with almost anything you do if you really desire to enjoy it.

Your faith plays a big role where the height of your experience is concerned, the writer of the book of Hebrews had this to say about faith: "Faith is the substance of things hopped for the evidence of things not yet seen" Hebrews 11:1

Many of your future aspirations and dreams that will eventually give you wonderful experiences simply have to be based on faith, otherwise you will not even try to take a step to plan for them.
So,
live by faith: "For the just shall live by faith" and you will be assured of wonderful experiences in the future.

Okay, there we have it; the breadth, the length, the depth and the height of experiences. If you are going through an experience right now that you don't like, you can get out of it and get into the one you want, that is the way it should be.
That is now all up to you.

What remains for me to do is to say, Have an unforgettable experience and make it a pleasant one. Let's catch up later, right here.
Shalom.

Peace & Love
Libs